F.R.E.E.

ONLINE ABORTION SHAME???!!! OH NOOO!!!

2009-10-10T10:58:00.000-07:00

Since when did republicans have the right to intrude on a woman's own privacy? Especially If she confides to abortion.....

Yes. Republicans in Oklahoma State are mandating the collection of information of abortion patients including their medical information and publicize them through the internet, which will include :

Date of abortion
County in which abortion performed
Age of mother
Marital status of mother (married, divorced, separated, widowed, or never married)
Race of mother
Years of education of mother (specify highest year completed)
State or foreign country of residence of mother
Total number of previous pregnancies of the mother
Number of pregnancies that ended in live births
Number of pregnancies that ended in miscarriages
Number of pregnancies that ended in induced abortions

-http://womensrights.change.org/blog/view/gop_lawmakers_want_to_put_your_abortion_records_online

Now let's take a moment and analyze this issue. The intention of this law is to prevent abortion. Which is absurd in many ways because we all know that it is most important to distribute legitimate information and knowledge about using contraceptives and make it accessible to everyone! But I guess the way to go for them is by agonizing anyone who decides to take control of their own body and partake in abortion by publicizing it, and make it known how shameful it is???

I'm pretty sure that everyone knows that this is not the smartest thing in the world.

they want to socialize you, they want to purify you, they want to dignify, anaylze, and terrorize you!

2009-04-16T16:23:00.000-07:00

alright here it goes, feminist sex. i'm not gonna sit here and pretend i'm a sexpert cause i'm only 19 years young with very little experience under my belt. but, i can tell you one thing from the little experience i have had. sex, or even attempting sex with a feminist-friendly man is 10,000x's better. why? cause he's more likely to be judgement-free! of course that's not the ONLY reason. but, these days it seems to me that having sex with a feminist-friendly man who isn't going to judge you, pressure you, or force you into something you're not comfortable with, who you can trust with absolute certainty won't disrespect your sexual autonomy will be the only surefire way to assure that the experience won't turn into something icky, like bad sex or even worse, rape.

so listen up! I'm so sick and tired of the dull, trite, rigid, conventional conservatives who believe it is their duty to condemn and rail against those who choose to dance to the beat of an uncharted path and i'm sick and tired of the faux-feminist politics of anti-porn who claim that all porn is exploitative and demeaning for all women. okay first of all no, the most exploitative and demeaning concept to ever exist in our culture is that of sexual repression the idea that sex is dirty nasty filthy gross and disgusting, all pretty much meaning the same thing. anyway, the message is always the same, respectable, dignified, "good girls" are not supposed to actually ENJOY sex and GOD-FORBID they even talk about it, be open and honest about their sexual fantasies, have the AUDACITY to communicate to their partners their wants and needs, and/or explore alternatives to the standard model of monogamy. the silencing and shaming that stems from these messages is what kills me the most. it's something that i myself have had a long hard battle with that i am only now begginning to overcome in my quest to becoming a fully empowerd sexually aware and confident woman. and i'm sick and fucking tired of having to battle the inner voices that say "but...what if close friends and family find out that you actually enjoy this kink...omg they'd have a HEART ATTACK if they knew you were actually watching porn."

and actually. if you REALLLYY think about it i think a lot of people make a big taboo over something that is so natural only because it is something that is rarely talked about or brougvht to light in average day to day conversations and therefore there is a lot of controversy surrounding it. but really, it's something that everyone parttakes in and yeah, maybe there are some people who choose not to talk about sex because they want to maintain some kinda alluring mysterious air about their sexual selves. and that's fine. i respect that choice. but i often i feel like it is not a choice, people are AFRAID to speak openly and honestly, therefore it is not a choice but something that is unconsciously done in order to comply with the rigid mores and beliefs imposed upon them by strict religious upbringing, and/or societal pressures. and also, we are never given a platform to discuss our sexual selves openly, to express our opinions and share our thoughts. and THAT is the problem with our society. the fact that we cannot talk about something that is so natural is absolutely LUDICROUS! especially for someone like me who feels totally inhibited from enjoying myself pleasurably in a oh-my-god-what-would-my-parents/society/family/friends/teachers/classmates/neighbor/jesuschrist-think about this kinda way because being open, honest, and communicative is a turn-on for me. ...and that is why the secrecy and the privatization of our sex lives is an OUTRAGE for me, not to mention deeply frustrating...and i know for a fact that i am not the only one.

i'm not saying we all talk about sex all the time and talk dirty to one another @ inappropriate times. all i'm saying is that we not be ashamed to talk openly about sex and to even talk dirty. for some people, talk is a turn on. but i'm afraid that if the culture of repression continues to exist the numbers of sexually repressed individuals will only become higher and higher. and that is where the real danger lies. because more sexually repressed people means that the concept of enthusiastic consent is nearly diminished in the face of unconscious power struggles between two sexually repressed people more often, further perpetuating our current culture of rape. and NO enthusiastic consent is not the absenence of a "no" in either partner. enthusiatic consent is ENTHUSIASTICALLY communicating to your partner precisely what you desire and if it is in the realm of extended fantasy so much the better. if a woman or a man is the slightest bit uncomfortable for whatever reason neither partner is liable to change that. the concept of enthusiastic consent further ensures that neither partner will get caught up in a situation that can far too easily become awkward. and there are instances where things only feel uncomfortable after the deed is done and that can only happen if on of the partners is left unsatisfied for whatever reason and THAT is why it is soooooo important to communicate openly, honestly, and in-depth of your expectations, needs, wants, desires, etc. i've been caught up in some awkward situations where the communcation was lacking and trust me when i say it was aaaaaawkwaarrrd. and of course, being ashamed to talk openly and honestly can have you behavin in some uncharacteristic, outta-whack ways.

oh yeah, and about the whole sex is only good until we are in a long-term monagomous relationship and we should abstain from it otherwise because it is dirty and dangerous, and people (specifically women) who deviate from the norm are filthy whores desperately craving for attention is fucking bullshit! i don't condone those who DO abstain from sex until they've settled into a long-term monagomous relationship. in fact, i find that my current most stable relationship provides me with the consistency, safety, and emotional support needed to explore my sexuality no matter how perverse in a healthy manner. but anyway, to those that cannot fathom nor accept the fact that there are other, more sexually progressive forms of relationships must understand that there are some sexually expressive people who actually DO derive pleasure from their sexual liasions that is both consensual and satisfying. i believe that if we can all come to terms with this, dare i say, unconvenient truth then MAYBE just MAAAAAAAAYYYBEEEEEE we can envision a world where people are less ashamed and more empowered by their sexuality.

competition

2009-04-14T17:36:00.001-07:00

it's a well known fact that women tend to be too competetive with other women, especially when it comes to superficial matters, like if your girlfriend got the latest parada bag, and for some reason, YOU JUST HAVE TO GET IT!

This is really unfortunate because women have so many internalized issues as opposed to men. We have to scramble to men's standards, live up to all these fucking beauty standards, and WE ARE BEING COMPETETIVE TO OTHER WOMEN JUST TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT OURSELVES? girls, i really don't think it's necessary. Just learn how to love yourself more, and learn to love what you have! And understand the differences each person has with one another, trying to hype up your insecurities will not help you in anyway, i swear it will only make you feel so shitty about yourself.

Alot of my guy friends complain to me why so many women are insecure as hell towards other women. And i really can't blame them cause it is true, and at the same time, i can't blame women too, because i have been there and done that. It all goes back to societal fallacies, and how detrimental these matters are to women all over the world. The fact that society keeps pushing women towards a certain look that they should have, a certain attitude they gotta show, etc. etc. drives women towards the most unfathomable insecurities.

there's so much more to experience than keeping yourself locked up in your insecurities. Think about the things you like about yourself, and stick to it! embrace it! and always remember to riot not diet!

Loren N.

lost cause

2009-03-14T13:00:00.000-07:00

What irks me the most is when people define what feminism is. I know, we all have our own ideology of feminism.
Someone told me, that feminism means, "you've been supressed by the corporate world" and that I am too young to actually call myself a "feminist" because i haven't even experienced the "real world". Can this person get anymore shallow??? I tried my hardest to explain to him why i am a feminist, and he kept insisting that the ONLY reason why i am a feminist is because of the failure of my past relationships. NO! (I guess he totally misunderstood what I meant when i said that i wouldnt be a feminist if I was in such a secluded relationship) I had told him, being a feminist is more than the generic definition of it on the dictionary (yes, cause he had to look up 'feminism' on the dictionary) let's say that being supressed by the corporate world is PART of this generations feminism, but thanks to our sistas from the first wave and second wave feminism, things are better than ever! But the focus is on the internal effects of societal implications on young women. And i dont know how he doesnt get this because it only takes COMMON SENSE to realize that EVERYWHERE you go, and EVERYWHERE you look, WOMEN ARE STILL BEING OBJECTIFIED. from mysoginistic homes, to our mysoginistic country. WHAT OTHER KIND OF EXPLANATION DO YOU NEED?

But, that whole discussion was a lost cause because you can never convince someone who refuses to consider your opinions because you are rather "young" and still don't know the "real" definition of feminism. yeah right. easy for you to say cause your not the one in my shoes.

Loren

untitled diddy #1

2009-03-13T11:02:00.000-07:00

She shut her eyelids tight with the
intent to feel the oncoming pleasure that should've
been granted to her instinctively-
or so she thought.
She felt absolutely nothing. Though she thought she should've felt at least
some tingling, she felt nothing. she convinced herself that if she could only shut her eyelids tighter
she might actually feel something
"This feels good"
"This feel pleasurable"
were the mantras she would repeat to herself throughout
Eyelids tightly twitching, fingers clinched, she forced a:
Yes. Right There. Oh Yeah. Uh Huh. Mmmmmmm...
over and over and over again
all to no avail, she still felt absolutely nothing.
She kept pretending to feel something pleasurable she didn't wanna believe that
there was anything inherently wrong with the picture, so
she would only pretend to feel passionately towards him
almost as passionately as he felt towards his self and his own pleasure
his hedonistic desires were his own for the taking of the innocence and the passivity
of inner turmoil guarded furiously by careful, coy smiles, and kindly gestures
She was the perfect match for him, so he thought
for a boy who undeniably thought of her as a mere commodity in the world's marketplace
his carnal cravings aggressively sank into her core
she mistook his aggression for passion, and rightfully so
but he was only passionate about the stroking of his own ego but
she didn't know, so she gave him a go denying the greater half of her-
the powerfully insightful, intuitive voice was screaming no , and her body
her body wasn't even screaming yes
but she still undressed-for the sake of curiosity she undressed only to meet the bar
that he had raised. she dared not admit that she was afraid
and GODDAMN! was she good at pretending
it's all she was ever taught to do by society
in order to accommodate set standards in the world's market place
standards that,
when met,
amount to nothing more than the degree of our own objectivity
so naturally vanity, passivity, and a lack of intellect are
among the top 3 standards we learn to integrate into our personalities in order to feel
complete in our own femininity.
SHE was neither vain, passive, or plain-
she only pretended to be cause all along that's what she was supposed to be
and she couldn't stand to bare witness to the stabbing of her dignity,
so she shut her eyelids tightly, clinching her fingers denying her assertiveness
in the backseat, she couldn't feel a thing
& she woke the next morning, grieving for the little girl she used to be
and decided from that day on she would never live another lie

the stigma on hairy legs

2009-03-04T23:58:00.000-08:00

i had this conversation with a couple of friends over dinner, about this woman who came in a massage parlor with extremely hairy legs. And my male friend said, "that's disgusting, did you have to wear gloves?" first of all, i was appaulled with this reply. Did she have to wear gloves??? Why?! for what reason?? because she has hairy legs? And is it that disgusting to the point where you have to make sure that the physical contact that will take place has to be totally secured?!

And people tell me feminism is dead. If it is, then why do these comments still come around? The social stigma of women having hairy legs is so over rated i know, but why do people still think this way? and this friend of mine also said that "hairy arms/legs define a man" yeah. right. talk about equality right?

This is still an underlying issue that a lot of women refuse to talk about, they feel ashamed to tell others about their hairy body and that totally sucks ass. WE should ALL be happy with what we have. And always keep in mind that MEN and WOMEN are created the same. yes, WITH HAIR FOLLICLES. so get that straight. if a woman ever decides not to shave, its on her decision. and don't make her feel bad about it. Abolish this stigma on hairy women. I am hairy too, and so does a lot of women i know.

Let's wear our skin proudly, hairy or not. WEAR YOUR SKIN WITH PRIDE!

-Loren

The Slits!

2009-02-24T15:24:00.000-08:00

Typical girls are looking for something
Typical girls fall under spells
Typical girls buy magazines
Typical girls feel like hell
Typical girls worry about spots, fat, and natural smells
Sniky fake smells

faith fucking, anyone??

2009-02-13T23:00:00.001-08:00

"3) Rigorously rub your face, body and genitalia against those of your faith partner until orgasm. (Also known as 'faith-fucking')"-http://www.abstinenceonly.com/

This is ridiculous, not that i have anything against couples who decide to orgasm with just rubbing each others genitalia, but seriously? are they really really really putting this as a reason to abstain from sex????

this was 3rd on the list of "fun things that faith partners can do aside from having sex". It just doesn't sound right to me how a supposedly virtous, faithful, jesus loving people (totally NOTHING against that!) are implementing an alternative for "fun" orgasmic experience aside from sex. i mean, aren't they supposed to preach that everyone should resist any kind of sexual thought?!that's what I remember the priest telling everyone during mass. And isn't that somewhat committing adultery? and for god's sake their not even supposed to cuss!!! (faith fucking anyone?)

???

oh and another thing, i was going through stories of people who support the whole abstince only thing and i found this letter from a woman. and it doesn't sound too pleasing to me.

"Dear AbstinenceOnly,

My boss and I have been carrying on a kind of abstinent non-affair for several years now (He's married.) To sublimate the sexual tension between us we like to launch billions of dollars worth of high explosives from aircraft and submarines into heavilypopulated urban areas in the Middle East. Afterwards we watch films of the attacks with Donnie and Dick, our officemates, who like to wear leather masks andball-gags while masturbating and making soft gurgling noises.

I know it doesn't sound ladylike, but looking at those explosions and imagining all those people dying in a horrific spray of blood, fire, bone, gristle, tissue and sinew... it just gets me slicker than scum off a Louisiana swamp. Then my boss, bless his soul, reaches over and gently holds my hand.-Condoleezza R. (address withheld by request)"

(again from abstinenceonly.com)

god forbid, they shouldn't have posted this story. seriously, if im gonna have to turn into such a reprobated person. then i'd rather say no to you abstince only!

anyways it might not sound relevant to our cause, but it is! women are also affected with this false propaganda. so does men.

check out abstinenceonly.com if your interested!

sincerely,
Lo

welcome!

2009-02-04T14:13:00.000-08:00

there's this new feel that struck me with the full intention to once again, dig deep into my womanhood and start raising awareness with current sexist issues and demonstrate a peaceful fight against the sexism that goes on in the community and nation as a whole.

SO, here's the FREE CLUB once again! Feminist Renegades Expecting Equality is back in business to lay it down to everyone what is really up with being willful, powerful and determined girls and gals. We are a small, DIY, grass roots organization creating a safe & feminist-friendly environment by educating women AND men, about feminism and trying our hardest to fight the sexism that is taking place in our generation today.

We are here to expose the underlying sexist issues in our community, raise awareness to women all over, and reclaim public space. so join us, in this act of women liberation! start making a change and make this world a better place, one step at a time!

And always remember.... RIOT DON'T DIET!

all our feminist love, Loren And Denise <3